Saturday, 18 February 2017


It is an emotion, being in quicksand. Slowly and surely, you feel being pulled into it.

Scientifically, quicksand is sand that has absorbed too much water and becomes extremely light. You step on it and it gives way. You will not drown to death; you will only feel like you will. Because the ground below is not infinite and it has a base. If you just remain calm and slowly find your way out of it, you will live.

I guess it is not easy to be calm at that time. Maybe the brain stops working and the logic does not seem logical. Only the ones who have felt it can explain though it is inexplicable. This feeling of drowning into nothingness.

Quicksand is not always a negative state to be in, contrary to what Google says when you search for it. So this might be a different take on the concept. This is the fun about abstract topics; there are always more perspectives than what meets the eye.

You might be drunk on ambition and greed; it pulls you in. it is difficult to stop the craziness, and it is quicksand. It requires the strength and will power to come out of this mad cycle.

You might be in love. You might be losing something or someone. You are experiencing it and not able to take the path which is logical and practical for you. The constant war, the constant debate in your head. Sometimes the pull and the tide are way too strong: quicksand.

I think courage is the key here. Courage does not always mean being not afraid. Or to find the way, to swim to the shore, to fight for what you want. Sometimes courage is also to find the will to stay right at the spot you are, just holding on. You don’t have to wait for help, you just have to hold on. It does not mean you are depending on anything or anyone else to come and find you. It is just enough to just hold on. It is okay.

Quicksand is not a bad place to be. If you happen to be in one, give it a chance. Give yourself the chance to experience it. It might change the whole perspective of life that you had.

Saturday, 21 January 2017

The pain of Optimism

Be positive.

Hold on. If you truly want it, nothing is impossible.

Believe in it and it will happen.

Law of attraction works.

When you want something, the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

Great thinkers, philosophers and speakers have always focused upon the power of positivity and optimism. Their writings and quotes have inspired millions to get back on their feet and achieve quite difficult dreams and goals. Self help books sales are getting higher each year. Today's world is tough to live in with tougher challenges and tougher aspirations. In such times, staying optimistic is the mantra and is contagious. The more optimistic people are, the better.

I am a firm believer in positivity and am of the notion that everything can be possible if only we can strive towards it. Be it a new challenging work profile or catching an office cab in 4 minutes flat, it can be done if only I try and give it my best. Optimism is like an omnipresent initial feeling about almost everything.

Lately I have been wondering, like everything else , does optimism also has two faces to it in terms of consequences?

You are positive about a dream that you have. A dream that seems impossible to be true. You work towards it and give it your one hundred percent to make it happen. You pray, send out that message to the universe (request it to conspire) and you tirelessly believe in it. But it is a known fact and you know it, it is not going to happen. NO matter how hard you try or how badly you want it, it is just not going to be a reality. 

This is the arrival point of the pain of optimism, and it arrives in full pomp and style.

Being positive pushes you to keep believing in your dream, logic and experience pushes you to give it up. It is a fight between the right and left side of the brain, it is a war between the heart and the mind. But damn, it must be frustrating.

If your core is optimistic and you have never-give-up attitude, you are in for a disaster in such situations. You will be torn. What do you do then? Give up your core and accept defeat in the face of the ruthless realities of life. Or foolishly keep working and hoping and praying that one day, your dream will come true. 

How does one deal with such situations or does one have to deal at all or let life take its course? Let time tell. Just let it be until that precious dream stumble upon realization that it is supposed to remain and disappear in the same form. Allow it to self-subtract and self-destruct.